7 Signs that you might be a negative golfer – part four

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“If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until it gets so ugly you can hardly bear to look at it. A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”Roald Dahl

By Ian Hardie

In the post 7 Signs that you might be a negative golfer – part three I offered the second sign that you could be a negative golfer which is;

Expecting the worst possible result for every shot and game that you play

Something that almost all of you will have experienced at some point in your golf career as after all, those sorts of thoughts and words generally only appear as a result of experiencing patches of play or rounds where you seem to get only bad breaks and in reality

Golf is a game where all golfers at one time or another have their share of bad results

However if you happen to let that sort of thing get the best of you and continually expect the worst possible result from every shot and game that you play

Eventually bad results from every shot that you hit end up becoming a Self-fulfilling prophecy which is fuelled by a thing called a Positive feedback loop

You hit a shot expecting a bad result – you get a bad result

You hit the next shot expecting a bad result – you get a bad result

You hit the next shot expecting………………….

I’m sure that you will have worked out by now that this type of negativity in a golfer will just go on and on – especially if it’s combined with the third sign that you could be a negative golfer which is;

Constantly complaining about everything during your game

The things that this type of negative golfer says (and no doubt thinks) are……………………

Actually, I think I’m going to let you fill in the blanks here

As I’m sure that if you give it a little thought you can identify some things that you may well think about or say during each game – that are negative

If you can’t I’m pretty sure that you can recall some things that another golfer who you may have played with has done or said during a round recently – especially if they do it all the way during the round

Your clue by the way, is that you will finish the round you play with them feeling very mentally drained and ‘flat’

After listening to their constant complaining during the entire round!

So take a moment here to make a little list of complaints that you may hear on the golf course;

1.

2.

3.

4.

5.

6.

If you can think of more just keep on going, making the list as long as possible

Once you have produced the list (however long or short it is) take a good look through it and rate each one from a scale of 1 to 5

A – 1 being a thing that the golfer effectively has no control over – like complaining about the weather – ‘it’s cold or its windy’

A – 2 would be something that could have some effect but they also have no control over – like complaining about the position the hole is cut on a green – ‘I can’t believe the green keeper put it there’

A – 3 would be something that might have some effect but it also unlikely to be influenced – like having to wait longer than usual to tee off – ‘I’ve had to wait so long to tee off because there are so many golfers here today’

A – 4 would be something that has quite a lot of effect and is able to be influenced – like another golfer in your group walking ahead of you as you are playing a shot – ‘they put me off as I could see them walking ahead of me before I hit’

A – 5 would need to be something that in reality – does actually call for a negative reaction for a normal person – ‘I’m sure I just saw that person pick up my golf ball’

Obviously the above are only guidelines as you will likely have a lot of different things on your list but try to rate them as well as you can in the order of importance they deserve

Once you have done that take a good look at the list

Are there more 1’s and 2’s on your list than anything else or does that list that you made feature a lot of 3’s, 4’s and 5’s?

Look out for ‘7 Signs that you might be a negative golfer – part five’ where I will be offering some more ideas about the list that you will have made as well as taking a look at the next sign that you might be a negative golfer

Which is something that you might not think was really that negative

Choosing to hit a safe shot rather than the one that needs to be hit to play the hole

Until then

Play well

 

Related Posts

7 Signs that you might be a negative golfer

7 Signs that you might be a negative golfer – part two

7 Signs that you might be a negative golfer – part three

Why don’t we listen to that little voice?