“There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.” - W. Clement Stone
By Ian Hardie
Over the past couple of years I have spent a bit of time writing about some of the various golfers that are participants in the game we play
Well, to be more exact I seem to have written about the most noticeable ones so far
Judging by the amount of times the posts about those golfers are read around the world – they clearly make up not only a sizeable amount of the golfers that play – they also have a big effect on the rest of the golfers that end up playing with them but I’m going to suggest
That they don’t have quite as big an effect on other golfers – as a negative golfer does
The reason for this is that the words, actions and attitudes of negative golfers will actually rub off on other golfers if they happen to be around them for any length of time
Because negativity is not something that most people instantly react to very strongly
Just read that again and let that sink in for a minute
A golfer that annoys you, who cheats or who plays slowly – is exhibiting behaviours that are probably in opposition to your personal beliefs or attitudes as to how things should be
Which is why you will react quickly and fairly strongly to them!
Negativity on the golf course though, is something that most people accept as part of the game after all,
Who could play a round of golf without having a negative reaction to anything?
No golfer would think twice about questioning the attitude of a golfer who may be having a game that has them getting bad breaks, hitting poor shots, staying in the trees instead of bouncing out and is just overall having a bad round – would they?
They would just accept that the golfer is having a bad day and even though they think that they might not be paying too much attention to all that negativity that the golfer will be either exhibiting or as is most common – swearing or muttering about
The reality is that every word, action and attitude that the negative golfer displays will be being recorded in not only the negative golfer’s sub-conscious
It’s also being quietly recorded in the sub-conscious of their playing partners as well
Just consider all that for a minute in terms of the golfers you would most often play with
Is there one (or more than one) that every time you play a game with them – you end up having a terrible game and more than likely finish the game in a worse frame of mind than when you started?
If so, that golfer (or group) – whether they know it or not – is a negative golfer
The effect they have is that not only do they destroy their own game over time
Frequent games played in the company of them will destroy yours as well!
Now I’m guessing at this point you are doing one of two things;
If you don’t happen to be reacting in either of those ways then I’d like you to;
Think back over the last couple of months and your golf game in general
If your game hasn’t been going well and like most golfers – instead of seeking the help of a good golf teacher to get you back on track – sooner rather than later
Have you been exhibiting the first sign that you might be a negative golfer?
Telling everyone that you meet (who will listen) how bad your game is!
I’m going to take a look at just why that is something that a negative golfer would do in 7 Signs that you might be a negative golfer – part two soon