7 Signs that you might be a negative golfer – part three

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“The sun shines and warms and lights us and we have no curiosity to know why this is so; but we ask the reason of all evil, pain, hunger, mosquitoes and silly people.”Ralph Waldo Emerson

By Ian Hardie

In the post 7 Signs that you might be a negative golfer – part two I suggested that the first sign that you could be a negative golfer is;

Telling everyone that you meet (who will listen) how bad your game is!

The reason for that as you may recall is that the sheer repetition of saying that sort of thing to other golfers – will eventually end up convincing your sub-conscious mind that you are indeed a bad golfer

Which as you will have worked out by reading the post I suggested to read near the end – will result in your golf game descending into a never ending spiral as you continue to fill your sub-conscious with negativity about the state of your golf game

That same repetition comes into play when looking at the second sign that you might be a negative golfer

Expecting the worst possible result for every shot and game that you play

If you don’t recognise that sort of thing in your own game, I’m pretty sure that you will have played with a negative golfer at some point who will have been doing it during their game

The clues would be the golfer hitting what looks to be a good shot as it leaves the club head, then saying things like;

‘That’s going to end up running into the rough or sitting in a divot’

‘That’ll bounce into the sand trap instead of onto the green’

‘I always putt badly when the greens are this fast!’

‘It’s heading towards those trees – I’m sure it will go in deeper instead of bouncing out’

‘That’s going to plug in the sand – they always do for me!’

‘This will be another three putt’

‘If it hits that tree – it’s going to bounce out of bounds as usual’

I could go on with a big list there but I’m sure you have the idea of the sort of things that a negative golfer would say

As well as probably recognising that behaviour in a golfer that you may know

Just like the first sign that you could be a negative golfer – the second one – expecting the worst possible result for every shot and game that you play doesn’t seem that big a problem to most golfers as after all

The golfer is only saying those things after experiencing them happening in the past

However, take a moment to consider something called a Self-fulfilling prophecy

Which is a prediction that directly or indirectly causes itself to become true, by the very terms of the prophecy itself, due to positive feedback between belief and behaviour

In simple terms it means that if you expect to get a lot of bad breaks on the golf course – that’s exactly what you are going to end up with

I recall a story that was told many years ago about golfing great Gary Player

At whatever tournament it was a reporter asked him how he liked the greens at the golf course that was being played ‘I love this type of grass on the greens – I always putt my best on these greens’ he answered

A week or two later and the tour was at a different course – sensing an opportunity for a good headline, the same reporter asked Gary Player what he thought of the greens at the course

As they were a completely different type of grass to the greens at the earlier event

‘I love this type of grass on the greens – I always putt my best on these greens’ he answered

The reporter was extremely puzzled by this response but wasn’t keen to question Gary Player any further in public – instead he caught up with him the next day in the locker room and asked why it was that

Two totally different types of greens could both be his favourite that he putted best on

Gary Players answer was simple

‘If I look for faults in the greens or complain my way around the golf course – I will never be in the positive frame of mind that is required to putt well – therefore every type of grass or green that I ever play on is my favourite at that point in time’

Take a minute to think about your own golf game for a minute now

Whether you are looking for the positive things that can happen or expecting negative things to happen during your game – you will find whichever it is you focus on

The question is which one do you really want the most of?

Look out for ‘7 Signs that you might be a negative golfer – part four’ where I will take a look at the third sign that you might be a negative golfer which is;

Constantly complaining about everything during your game

Until then

Play well

 

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